Potato Friends: It's Nice for Someone to Make You Feel Nice

There are some people that want you to feel terrible. Life should be work and there is nothing fun about it. Well, I don't know about you, but I really enjoy feeling good and it is quite the reward to end each day with a smile on my face.

I spend some time answering Yahoo Questions. I know, a silly pasttime, but I do like it quite a bit. I particularly enjoy answering questions in the Family and Relationships column. The NUMBER ONE question of teens: Should I Remain in this Relationship? This question doesn't just mean friendship. It means parent to child, boyfriend to girlfriend, mentor to mentee, or any relationship under the sun.

Some people spend a lot of time complaining about others and the way they treat them and make them feel. My question for these people is always: Why do you continue to spend time with this person when the result is always the same? It's not going to get any better.

It really amazes me how many people don't know how to have a healthy relationship, or what one should even look like. Let me share what I believe a healthy relationship to be:

- In a healthy relationship your friend, partner etc. will support you and try to bring out the best in you.

- There is no yelling.

- You will feel like you benefit from being a part of it.

- You will feel like for the growth of the relationship the sky is the limit.

In my opinion there should not be any walking away feeling sad, or needing to please another person in order for them to be happy. Your partner in the relationship should be contented with themselves and should be contented with you being yourself (unless you are unhealthy, or are doing illegal stuff, please seek help).

If the people that are closest to you are making you feel sad try finding some friends that you feel glad to be around. When you find the right kind of people you will know it because you will feel glad to be around each other and there won't be any silly questions like: Should I put up with this?, or Should I stick around?

Personally, I will be smiling when I sleep tonight because of the nice-feeling relationships I have and OH - It feels so nice to say that!